Life, Home & Table · Story 5

LPT: When you move abroad, the first question to ask locals isn't where to live or what to eat. It's "What do foreigners always get wrong here?"

A Reddit Life Pro Tip suggests that when moving abroad, the most important question to ask locals is what foreigners commonly get wrong. The post has generated over 11,000 upvotes and 1,200 comments, with many sharing specific cultural faux pas from their own experiences.

The discussion highlights how unspoken cultural rules—like doorbell etiquette or social warmth—can be more important for integration than practical advice on housing or food. It underscores the value of asking locals directly about their pet peeves rather than relying on generic expat guides.

Key details

  • The LPT was posted on r/LifeProTips and has 11,994 upvotes and 1,269 comments.
  • Top comment: A US expat in the UK was told to “not be so happy all the time” by a local.
  • A Swedish user moving to Italy asked for a similar list, acknowledging language learning as a priority.
  • A German commenter confirmed strict doorbell rules, noting that the cutoff can be as early as 20:00 in some buildings.
  • Another commenter emphasized that in Germany, you should never show up at someone's apartment without texting first, even for close friends.

Discussion angles

  • Cultural differences in social warmth: US friendliness can be seen as excessive in the UK.
  • Strict doorbell etiquette in Germany, with cutoffs as early as 8 PM and a grey zone until 10 PM.
  • The importance of texting before visiting in Germany, even among close friends.
  • Language learning as a non-negotiable first step for integration in Italy.
  • The value of asking locals directly about their pet peeves rather than relying on generic advice.

Top comments

Commenters largely validated the LPT with personal anecdotes, focusing on specific cultural rules like doorbell etiquette in Germany and social warmth expectations in the UK. Many shared their own experiences of moving abroad and the unspoken norms they learned the hard way.

When I moved to the UK from the U.S., I asked a local what we yanks needed to stop doing. He took a long pause then told me “I really need you to be not so happy all the time”.
u/PoshOctopod · 2,254 score
I'm Swedish but recently bought an apartment in Italy so I could ask you the same, give me the list thank you 🙏😇 besides from learning your language tho, that's a big one I know.....
u/RoofNeat5991 · 2,100 score
As a German, I confirm all of these. The fact that you think the doorbell rule ends at 22:00 is generous, though. Some buildings, the real cutoff is 20:00, and the two hours between are a grey zone where you'll survive, but you'll be discussed at the next...
u/baest_00 · 1,213 score
you were in germany
u/BossiBoZz · 874 score
Don’t show up at someone's apartment without texting first, ever, even close friends. Where did you ever think arriving unannounced or ringing doorbells after 10pm is ok?
u/CrazyLegsRyan · 683 score